Rating: 5 stars
Were you outraged when Brock Turner got 6 months for raping a girl on the Stanford campus? Did you want to throw your phone across the room when you read that the judge said Brock “had a promising future and he didn’t want to derail it” with a longer sentence?
The message: a boy, especially one who is white, an athlete and wealthy means more than a girl.
The press had called her Emily Doe, a name given to her by the prosecution to secure her identity, something she embraced for a while because it helped her compartmentalize her pain. But now she is taking back her power and her name is Chanel Miller and she is making a difference.
This book is gorgeously written. Chanel is a likable, relatable, flawed character. I want to be her friend.
I was upset by the humiliating procedures she had to endure after the rape and although I understand it is necessary, there has to be a better way. Although Chanel was the victim, she was the one that was humiliated in court and the one who had to answer for everything she had ever done, while Brock was lauded as a star athlete and good student at a school with a 4% acceptance rate.
I was so upset and annoyed by the way Chanel was treated by the court system and the comments people made on articles. I am glad she wrote this book. I applaud her for the final chapters where she talks about the different issues in our society, a President who says vulgar things on camera to Billy Bush and how these things need to change in our society. Girls lives and bodies are worth just as much as boys. The idea that boys can’t control their sexual urges degrades boys, they are not animals, they can control themselves and should be expected to and held accountable. I was raised to believe that boys only wanted one thing from girls and that I had to be wary of being alone with boys. I did not raise my girls that way. I told them to be careful, to be aware, but I told them that boys are human too, with feelings and emotions and complicated layers, just like girls.